Picking Your First Dildo 2.0

BUYING YOUR FIRST DILDO: EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW

It happens all too often…a girl walks into a sex toy shop wanting to buy her first dildo. She shyly asks the store clerk to point her in the right direction and is led to a massive wall of dildos in every shape, size, and color.

Buying your first dildo can be an exciting but also overwhelming experience. After all, there are SO MANY OPTIONS to choose from. Do you want something that looks and feels like a penis? Or maybe you want something made of steel, glass, or acrylic? What about something with ridges or beads? Does it need to be waterproof? Are you confused yet?

It’s not an uncommon problem to be unsure where you should start. So, let’s break it down. Here’s everything you need to know before buying your first dildo.

How are you going to use it?

The goal of using a sex toy is always pleasure, but there are various kinds. Are you looking for penetration alone, or do you want external stimulation as well? Will the penetration be vaginal or anal? Are you looking to hit a specific spot? Will you be using the toy alone or with your partner? The answer to these questions will undoubtedly change which dildo is best for you.

Every sex toy stimulates a part of your body, whether internal or external. If you’re looking for g-spot (or p-spot) stimulation, you’ll want to try something that’s curved in the middle or at the tip. If you need clitoral stimulation along with penetration, try something with external vibration or a “rabbit” vibrator.

If you plan to use your new toy exclusively solo, you’ll need to find something that’s easy to hold or something that can be used hands-free. If you play with a partner, it’s important to consider who’s penetrating who, how they’ll hold it in their hand, or if it’s compatible with a strap on harness.

Try these:

Basix Rubber 6.5 inches Dong With Suction Cup

Greedy Girl G Spot Rabbit Vibrator

Anal Fantasy Ribbed P-Spot Vibe Black

Where will you use it?

This refers directly to where you want to stick your new dildo. Will it be used for vaginal penetration or anal penetration? It doesn’t matter how you want to play with your new purchase. Knowing where it’s going, can help determine the size, shape, and even material you should choose.

For anal, it’s always a good idea to start small. Especially if you’re new to backdoor play. Also, it can’t be emphasized enough that once a dildo is used for anal activity, you shouldn’t use it vaginally until it’s been properly sanitized.

Try these:

Joystick Glass Dildo Wand Anal & G-Spot

Crystal Jellies Anal Starter Kit

My First Mini Anal Lite Up T

Size

Forget the rumor you heard that bigger is always better. Choosing your dildo size should depend on what has already been in your vagina/ass. Think about your preferences when playing alone or with your partner and go from there. If you’re unsure about how much you can handle or the ideal size for you, start with something shorter and thinner.

An “average” size of five to six inches in length and 1.5 inches in diameter typically works for most vaginas, though it may be too big for anal sex beginners. Both the vagina and ass can expand to handle larger sizes, but this takes time, patience, and a lot of lube.

Try these:

Raging Hard-Ons Slimline Suction 4.5 inches Dong

Mini Swan Wand 4.75 inch Vibrator

Adam True Feel Cock Suction Cup Dildo

Materials for First Dildos

Not all materials are created equal. In fact, not all dildos are made of body-safe material. When looking for which dildo is best for you, stick to ones made of non-porous silicone, glass, or wood. These materials are safe for penetration as long as you clean them with approved sex toy cleansers.

Silicone

Silicone is a popular choice when it comes to first-time buyers. You can find higher-end luxury sex toys made from this material. There are also many affordable options. Silicone comes in various densities and can be somewhat soft or squishy while still firm enough for penetration. These dildos are relatively smooth with none of the realistic texture of veins or ridges. Dildos made of silicone come in almost any color imaginable. From a subtle flesh tone to an eye-catchy hot pink. If using lube, you should always stick to water-based for these types of toys.

Glass

Glass dildos are less popular with sex toy newbies but are fun and popular for many reasons. They come in fun shapes and designs, and some include a splash of color. Choosing a glass dildo is a great way to experiment with different sensations during your solo time. Pop it in the freezer, or warm it up and see how your body (or your partners) reacts to the different temperatures against your skin. You’re safe to use any type of lube with a glass dildo.

Wood

Wood dildos are often custom-made, so no two are identical. These tend to look like works of art, and just like glass, are great for experiencing new sensations. It’s important to make sure they have been made with a non-toxic, food-safe finish, so they are safe to go inside your body. It’s best to use water-based lube with wood dildos unless the manufacturer tells you otherwise.

Try these:

Timeless Classics Top Stud Silicone Vibrator

Icicles No 61 Glass Realistic Dildo

Glas Blue Spiral Glass Dildo

Shape and Features (It doesn’t have to look like a dick)

Some people want a dildo that resembles their partner or someone in their fantasies, but if you’re not the type that wants your dildo to look like a veiny masculine erection, that’s great too.

Dildo’s come in a plethora of shapes, sizes, and colors, so the choice is really yours. You can choose one shaped like an uncircumcised penis that leans slightly to the left. You can opt for something that’s been designed with maximum pleasure in mind and has curves in just the right places. Or one that features a beaded pearl shaft for intense sexual satisfaction.

Try these:

Platinum Premium Silicone The Slim Dildo

Twister Purple Discreet Vibrator

Sensuelle Impulse 7+1 Functions Slimline Vibrator

Conclusion

It doesn’t matter if you’re buying your first dildo or your fiftieth; you need something that will feel good to your body. The cheapest dildo or the brightest color might not be what you need. Size definitely matters, and so does the material your new dildo is made from. Don’t rush, take some time to look through all your options. Your first dildo likely won’t be your last, so do some research to figure out what would feel best to you and your body.